Losing a Loved One.
Losing a Mother. I was sure that as I cared for my mother for 5 ½ years expecting that she would die at
any time, that I would be fine when I lost her. I thought I was prepared for the inevitable. I was wrong.
Losing a person that has been your focus for 5 ½ years cannot be easy.
Losing your mother is not easy.
We have to remember that our mothers have been our anchor for our entire life. Even though they are
failing, if we have a problem, we discuss it with Mom, first and foremost. Mom always supports us or
gently, sometimes not so gently, guides us.
I find myself wandering from room to room thinking I have so much to do only to accomplish nothing. I
am overwhelmed and when I want to discuss it, my sounding board is not there. I wonder constantly
why I am all alone and want it that way. As a result, I realize that I am sad, very sad. I am missing someone
who I have counted on for my whole life. She was not always in the same town, same state or the same
home but she was always there.
How long will this sadness be with me? When will I get over being Violet’s daughter and just be me and
depend on me?
- There is loss, therefore there is NIH, leads a broad scientific effort to understand the nature of aging and to extend the healthy, active years of life. END OF LIFE What To Do After Someone Dies
- CDC on dealing with grief – There are many different types of loss. We may experience loss of income or a job, loss of control, or loss of connection with family or with friends. How Right Now Emotion – Dealing with Grief