Losing a Loved One: Bereavement – Cope with Grief over the Loss of a Loved One

LaVona Tomberlin End of Life Issues, Estate Planning, Life Transitions

Losing a Loved One.

Losing a Mother.

Loved One Lost. I cared for my mother for 5 ½ years expecting that she would die at any time. Therefore, I was sure. that as she was declining, I would be fine when I lost her. Afterall, I had expected this for over a half decade! Was I prepared for the inevitable Lose of a my Loved One? No. I was not prepared. Losing a Loved One that has been your focus for 5 ½ years is not going to be easy.

Losing your Loved One is not easy.

We have to remember that our mothers have been our anchor for our entire life. Even though their bodies are failing. First and foremost, if we have a problem, we discuss it with Mom. Mom always supports us. She is there gently, sometimes not so gently, guides us. Then, as I  wander from room to room I am stuck on circular thinking; “I have so much to do only to accomplish nothing”. In conclusion, I am overwhelmed. I want to discuss my pain, my loss, my mom. However, my mom, my sounding board, is not there. I wonder constantly why I am all alone and why do I want to continue this same path? 

Even now, after letting her go in 2021, I ask myself; “How long will this sadness be with me?, When will I get over being Violet’s daughter and just be me and depend on me?” Then, I realize that I am sad, very sad. I am missing someone who I have counted on for my whole life. She was not always in the same town. We did not always live in the same state. We had different homes, but she was always there.

Grief Resources:

  • There is loss, therefore there is NIA. National Institute on Aging, NIA, research has furthered our understanding of the nature of aging. NIA leads a broad scientific effort to understand the nature of aging and to extend the healthy, active years of life. END OF LIFE What To Do After Someone Dies
  • CDC on dealing with grief – There are many different types of loss. We may experience loss of income or a job, loss of control, or loss of connection with family or with friends. How Right Now Emotion – Dealing with Grief

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Diane Delaney, Placement Specialist Extraordinaire

Diane Delaney, Golden Placement Services
Diane Delaney

Delaney is the founder of Golden Placement Services. She began this business with a healthy dose of compassion for  helping families make educated decisions regarding senior placement. Focused to relieve stress in uncertain senior housing crucial moments.  Diane brings about loving change of lifestyle with grace. Diane is an accomplished executive manager, Director of Operations in senior housing. She enjoys sharing her experience by writing about the full spectrum of the transition process for seniors and family members. Read more from Senior Placement Specialist Diane: Ultimate Senior Living Resource Guide >>

LaVona Tombrelin, Senior Placement Specialist

LaVona Tomberlin
LaVona Tomberlin

Tombrelin brings a high level of education and experience to you as your Senior Placement Specialist at GPS. She loves writing about improving the lives of Elderly working in private care and in-home care for over 36 years. Geriatrics, Memory Care. Plus holds Master of Psychology Behavioral Health with the goal of advocating for those who needed a voice. Helping the families to make good decisions and to relieve their stress in uncertain times makes life worthwhile.

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